I’m Special / I’m Not Special

In August of 1990, at a personal development workshop known as The Forum, a facilitator stood on stage and spoke steadily into the microphone. “None of you are unique,” he told us. “None of you are special.”


Fast forward to last Wednesday. I was in post-meditation mode, thinking about what came to me during my time of quiet reflection, and peacefully pruning the tomato vines when that strong, truthful, inner voice that we all meet at some point said, “For many years you wanted to be special. Now you know you aren’t. That is freedom. Now get to work, and do the things that are special to you. Watch what grows from that place, without an addiction to being recognized, congratulated, or rewarded. Then you’ll know even more profoundly what it means to be free – and how wonderfully special you are, as you are.”

ESSENTIAL OIL recommendations to support non-attachment:
– Frankincense
– Arborvitae
– Cedarwood


Why Wait Until Friday?

It’s Friday again, which seems to be a cause for celebration for many people. And why not? Their weekday routine is ending, and maybe there will be some excitement, or something different to look forward to as the weekend kicks in.

“I’m really looking forward to Friday!”
“Can’t wait until Friday!”
“Thank God it’s Friday!”

What if we applied that same enthusiasm to Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday and Thursday, and even Saturday and Sunday?

Imagine saving all of your excitement, all of your positive thoughts, all of your enthusiasm for one day of the week. What if you were to spread that joy around, to give as much value to the other days, to hold Tuesday in as much esteem as you do Friday? What is the difference, really, between those days?

Reclaim the EVERYDAY joy that can be found wherever you are. Whenever you choose to acknowledge it, joy shows up. It’s that easy. Seek and you shall find. Look for ways to make every day a special day. What are you waiting for?

Pema Chodron Quotes - Rejoicing in ordinary


To make every day a joyful day try these two oils from doterra:

Elevation Joyful Blend is an invigorating combination of essential oils that blends euphoric scents to elevate your mood, promote feelings of confidence, and increase your energy. It’s the perfect combination of Lavandin, Lavender, Melissa, Ylang Ylang, and Osmanthus with Tangerine, Amyris, Clary Sage, Hawaiian Sandalwood Ho Wood, and Lemon Myrtle.

Balance Grounding Blend is a relaxing and uplifting mix Spruce, Ho Wood, Frankincense, Blue Tansy, and Blue Chamomile with Fractionated Coconut Oil that promotes tranquility and relaxation. Spruce was used by Native Americans for health and spiritual reasons and is still used today to bring harmony to the mind and body. Ho Wood, Blue Tansy, and Blue Chamomile can ease anxious feelings, while Frankincense provides a grounding, balancing effect on emotions.

Balance and Elevation

What Are You For?

Yesterday, which was Independence Day in the US, I woke with the thought, “What are you for?”

While pondering that question it occurred to me that there is much chatter on Twitter and Facebook, in newspapers, on TV news, and in other media about resisting, protesting, or being against something. My next thought was, “What would happen inside of us, in our communities, and around the world if we were to focus more on being for something, instead of against it? “I stand for equal rights.” “I believe in my freedom and rally for myself.” Is that too naive, idealistic, or unrealistic these days? Are those ideals already part of the mission of the marches we’ve seen recently? Yes, when people rally together, and express their anger, doubts, worries, and fears, it certainly can attract headlines, and lead to change. Sometimes, shouting it out makes a difference.

I looked on-line for an example of a movement that embodies the ideals above, and came across this:

The mission of the Women’s March is to harness the political power of diverse women and their communities to create transformative social change. The Women’s March is a women-led movement providing intersectional education on a diverse range of issues and create entry points for new grassroots activists & organizers to engage in their local communities through trainings, outreach programs and events. Women’s March is committed to dismantling systems of oppression through nonviolent resistance and building inclusive structures guided by self-determination, dignity and respect.

Here is a headline from the New York Times about the Women’s March, which took place on Jan.21, 2017: Women’s March Highlights as Huge Crowds Protest Trump: ‘We’re Not Going Away’ (Full story here: https://www.nytimes.com/2017/01/21/us/womens-march.html

That search led to this:
Mother Teresa - Peace rally

Which led to this:
Gandhi - Be the change

So what the heck is my point here? For me, “What are you for?” is a chance to re-align with things that allow peace, kindness, generosity, and compassion to flow through me unimpeded.

What are you for?

ESSENTIAL OIL tip for the day:

Combine a drop of Peppermint and Wild Orange oils in your hands. Rub your hands together, then bring your hands toward your nose without touching your eyes, and take a gentle breath in. A little shot of support for mental clarity, and calming.

Open Wider

This morning I was washing dishes and noticed something covering the filtering screen over the drain. “That’s not helpful,” I thought. “Nothings gonna get down the drain with that kind of mess in the way.” I reached into the filter and scooped out the potentially drain-clogging muck. Later, as I was driving to a meeting, it occurred to me that the muck in the drain was holding a great bit of information for my soul-searching self.

1) I didn’t know for sure if the drain would be clogged by what was hanging out in the filter. I assumed it would.

2) I took action based on previous life experiences.

3) My action potentially allowed for things (water, etc.) to flow more easily and quickly through a wider passage in the drain.

My BIG TAKEAWAY is: OPEN WIDER and let more good stuff flow to you!

Here are some ESSENTIAL OILS I use to support mental clarity, and spiritual insight, and expansion:

– Frankincense
– Lemon
– Rosemary

Listen Learn Grow

What – me worry?

If you’ve ever let your mind wander into the slippery field of ‘If only…’, ‘I/he/she/we/they should have or could have…’,’What if that happens tomorrow, or happens again, or never happens?’, then you probably know that line of thinking and believing could lead to hours of distraction, unfruitful behavior, and feelings of loss, rejection, abandonment, or worry. Hello, fear-based mindset! Goodbye, joy!

A few weeks ago I found myself caught in the wacky web of thinking described above. My mind had a vice grip on me, and it was 100% unpleasant. After struggling with the chaos for a while, I decided to ride out the wild waves, and let my mind reveal the deeper burden, and treasure, that lay buried under all the rubbish. That surrender eventually led to a profound insight, and peace.

Many times I have asked myself, “Do you want to ride the peace train, or the crazy train?” There is a choice there, and that choice may require diving into the depths of the drama that the mind is offering. It may feel awful, but I always tell myself that it is temporary – like all things on this planet – and that there is always light at the end of the tunnel. BONUS insight! I am the light. I am the tunnel.

What’s got your mind in turmoil these days? What are you willing to do to move beyond the turmoil?

Here are a few tools that I find very helpful:

www.thework.com (Byron Katie is remarkable, and very skilled at guiding people to understanding the value of allowing what is to be what is.)

– Frankincense, Lavender, and Vetiver essential oils (Use them topically, and aromatically for grounding, calming, and clarity. I have a brand that I prefer, and am happy to pass that info along. Just message me.)

– Meditation (Whatever form suits you!)

– Daily exercise (I like to run, and life weights. Yoga and Pilates also inspire me.)

Thanks – and be well – naturally!
No idea

Sick and Tired Of What?

Last week, a virus I had took me on quite a journey. Extreme drops in energy levels, fever, and sleeplessness combined with major body aches were my daily companions for 7 days and nights. I was up, and I was down. Throughout it, I was committed to knowing what, if any, underlying thought or belief system was ready to be revealed, and maybe let go of, or adjusted in some kind way. In other words, what was I sick and tired of?

“We go into the darkness, we seek initiation, in order to know directly how the roots of all beings are tied together: how we are related to all things, how this relationship expresses itself in terms of interdependence, and finally how all phenomena abide within one another.” – Joan Halifax

Twenty years ago I sat for a week, naked and silent, on a wooden platform, under a canopy of mosquito netting in a small, three-sided hut in the middle of the Amazon Jungle of Peru. I was on a vision quest. It was part of a two-week group journey into the heart of the Dark Feminine led by my mentor, Lorna Roberts, and the master jungle shaman and ayahuasquero, Agustin Rivas. Day after day I sat among the sounds and heat of the jungle, and the relentless, pounding chatter of my mind. A very restricted diet, and three experiences with the power plant ayahusca during that time left me feeling quite empty, weak, and humbled. I had gone into the jungle hungry for knowledge about the earth and the cosmos, my new business, relationships, etc., and found myself going deep within myself for the answers over and over and over again. My past lovingly showed up each day to remind me that I was afraid to know and love myself. How could I fully embrace and love all beings if I was out-of-touch with myself? I had pushed emotions down so far into my body that it had caused a physical disruption in healthy energy flow. How could I teach others about their bodies and emotions if I did not understand my own? My habit of giving away my time and energy to others had taken away from my own self-nurturing and the goals I’d set for myself, and often caused me to disregard my intuition. How could I offer others a chance to know themselves if I was constantly having to restore my energy after an over-abundance of giving?

Yesterday I woke with sharp images of my time in the jungle floating through my mind. Why were those memories so alive yesterday? Because they were reminding me that patterns I noticed 20 years ago were appearing once again, and it was time to make a change. I had been become sick and tired of being hyper-focused on what other people were doing in my business, and of holding onto thoughts and feelings that I deemed inappropriate to reveal.

What will I do with this knowledge now? As my dear friend, Rosa, used to say, “You have a lot of awareness, but if you lie around in bed with it all day, what good is it?”

Integration. Responsibilty. Action.

ESSENTIAL OILS to support the process: Sandalwood, Lime, Eucalyptus


Black / Light

I woke just after midnight today, drenched in sweat, and a bit confused. I wasn’t sure if it was the condition of my body or the dream that woke me. Ah, the dream…

I was lying on my back, staring at a wide open night sky that was filled with endless stars – a beautiful panorama of the universe. I began to float upwards, toward the light-sprinkled vastness. It was peaceful, and easy. I looked down at the length of my body and saw small, black shards coming out of my stomach, off of my legs, and out of my throat. The longer I watched, the bigger they became, and the faster they flew from all parts my body – giant black spikes popping gently and quickly out of me, and floating off into space. Soon I could no longer see my body. It had dissolved into the vastness, with none of the black pieces left to hold it together. – End of dream. –

Awake, and aware, I stripped off my wet clothes and crawled back into bed, meditating on my dream. Was the dream an indication that the low-grade fever (along with other symptoms) I’d had for several days had broken, or was there something more? This is what came to me when I asked for guidance:

“You have been allowing yourself to let go of those things that have weighed you down. This has been a years-long process of discovery, awakening, and realigning. Your dream is evidence that you can no longer contain that which you had absorbed and held through your various ‘work’ incarnations, and your decision as a child to support those who were suffering. In short, your system can no longer ‘hold space’ for the thoughts and feelings of others the way it once did. Your recent illness allows you the opportunity to slow down, to listen, and to release the build up of ‘toxins’. There is much to celebrate! Hold on to that divine image of lightness, of ease, and of peacefulness! This journey has only just begun!”

ESSENTIAL OILS to support your ascension: Frankincense, Lavender, Bergamot